Managing Disagreements course Saved my Marriage!

by Nathan Darling - Aug 31, 2009


A bath in Cheerio’s can relieve itching from chicken pox, poison ivy, or even sunburns.  Rubbing French’s Mustard into your hands can relieve the symptoms of arthritis.  Rub a dollop of Jif Peanut Butter into bubblegum, to remove bubblegum that gets stuck in your hair.  And here’s one more product that does more than it was originally intended.  LearnKey’s Managing Disagreements course saved my marriage.

(I am the one wearing Orange)

(See, there we are. Boy she sure looks blue.)

Here’s the thing. I was asked to write a blog about one of our training programs, and given cart blanche to choose whatever interested me.  I approached the assignment thinking I would pick A+ Certification, or Microsoft Office, you know something technically enriching.  As my eyes scanned the list of courses I happened upon one titled “Managing Disagreements.”

Perhaps I was a little biased because of the disagreement I had with my wife the day before, but this looked interesting.  After all, if I can learn to “manage” disagreements, I can learn to “win” them right?

Disclaimer : This training does not guarantee that you will win future arguments. It does not even teach you how to avoid them.  Nor will it necessarily save your marriage, as it did mine.

Somehow by taking a scientific approach to the causes behind disagreements, and identifying the 9 management styles, this course helps you understand yourself better.  Once you understand what is going on with you, it helps you to stay in control of yourself, and recognize the subconscious management styles of others, so that you can come to an accord more easily.  I doubt I would ever be allowed to claim this course can even provide marriage counseling, so I won’t say that.  I will say that my style of Maintaining did not mesh well with her style of Collaborating, and we were unable to get past it until I was able to find issues upon which I could Yield.

Look it over, it’s called Managing Disagreement (and it was probably originally meant for business manager to improve their interpersonal skills with their employees.)



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4 Responses to “Managing Disagreements course Saved my Marriage!”

  1. By Random on Sep 2, 2009 | Reply

    Hah! Your marriage was in jeopardy over one disagreement? Sounds pretty shaky to me. Maybe you should consider a marriage counselor.

  2. By Bill Bartmann_- on Sep 10, 2009 | Reply

    Great site…keep up the good work.

  3. By Norm Willinger on Sep 17, 2009 | Reply

    So, What happened?

  4. By Nathan Darling on Sep 17, 2009 | Reply

    Well lets see. We sat down and we had a meaningful discussion and we reached an agreement. This worked for our next disagreement as well, and a third. Somewhere around the fourth disagreement there was a breakdown somewhere, and say now that you mention it, maybe I should go back and review the training again.

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